This episode of Selfed Meditation for Emotional Wellness is me working through some stuff in real time. I talk about presence, grief, scattered identity, and what it means to decide and allow instead of trying to force things. If you’re feeling pulled in a lot of directions or just need space to feel, this one’s for you. It’s not polished—just honest.

"There’s a huge difference between giving up and letting go. Giving up is stopping without reason, but letting go is releasing attachment to specific outcomes. With Selfed, I’m stepping into a space of freedom to create, grow, and connect without the constraints of a nonprofit structure." – Courtney Brame

This week on Selfed, we recap the Black Men's Emotional Wellness Symposium, diving into fitness, spirituality, leadership, and vulnerability. From managing health beyond physical appearance to reframing self-care, this episode offers honest reflections and lessons for future gatherings.

Grief is messy, especially when it lingers for decades. In this episode of Selfed, Courtney Brame unpacks 23 years of unprocessed grief tied to the loss of his grandmother, whose funeral coincided with his 13th birthday. As a Black man, he shares how these emotions intertwine with the protective role his grandmother played in preventing his mother's coerced abortion, and how supporting his girlfriend through her own recent loss brought everything full circle. Listen as Courtney vulnerably navigates what it means to confront grief head-on and turn it into purposeful healing.

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In Selfed 52: Having Anger, I talk about the importance of being present with our emotions, especially anger, and how unprocessed feelings can show up unexpectedly, even impacting intimacy.

In this episode, I explore how yoga therapy can be a powerful tool for Black men, sharing my personal experience with both therapy and yoga therapy training. I break down the psychological inaccessibility of these spaces and my mission to make yoga therapy accessible as a complement to other healing modalities.

I’ve been in these spaces that don’t seem made for me—yoga, anime, nonprofits—and I’m tired of hiding who I am just because I don’t see anyone like me there. This episode is me saying, ‘Here I am, take me or leave me.’ Vulnerability has to be part of the conversation, especially for the Black men who feel like they don’t belong in these places. Let’s stop hiding.

Courtney Brame delves into the emotional complexities of his birthday, intertwined with the memory of his grandmother's funeral and the untold story of his birth. This episode of SELFED explores the profound impact these events have had on his journey of self-worth and purpose.

Courtney Brame explores the duality of humility and arrogance, revealing how his fears have held him back from his true potential. This episode of SELFED uncovers the struggle of being transparent with oneself and the importance of intentionality in shaping a fulfilling life.

In this episode of Selfed, Courtney Brame candidly discusses the struggles of loneliness, the temptations it brings, and how sitting with those feelings can ultimately lead to personal clarity and emotional release. Join him as he turns his podcast into a space for healthy decompression and mental wellness.

In this episode of Selfed, we delve into the often-overlooked importance of men’s intimacy. Reflecting on personal experiences and insights from the Game Kings Seminar, Courtney Brame discusses how men's intimacy can lead to healthier expressions of emotions and the creation of safe spaces for men to connect and decompress.

In this episode of Selfed, we explore how apathy manifests as a symptom of hatred, particularly in the context of modern masculinity and gender relations. By challenging societal norms, this episode offers a counter-culture perspective on the impact of sex positivity, societal indifference, and the emotional struggles men face today.

After losing some recent friendships, I’ve realized that sometimes letting go is the best way to make room for relationships that truly belong in your life. Don’t see the loss as a cost; see it as an investment in your future connections. Let them keep the change—you’ll recover.

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In this episode of Selfed, I reflect on my recent travels and experiences throughout March. From moving back home and attending conferences to witnessing rhinos in Africa and reassessing my love life, it was a month of growth and maturity.

On this episode of Selfed, I share my struggle with trying to fit into a narrative that isn’t truly mine. Despite being featured in the New York Times, I found myself more disappointed than proud. This episode is about embracing my story and the realization that people want to meet our needs—if we let them.

In this episode, I dive into the idea that intentionality is the core of meaningful connections. Reflecting on death and relationship transitions, I realize that relationships without my active initiation often don’t last. It’s the masculine energy of pursuit that drives relationships forward, and my passive approach has cost me in both love and career.

In this episode, I confront the discomfort of self-rejection and explore how many small acceptances of less-than-ideal situations build up over time. I share personal experiences where my low expectations led to feeling disappointed and deprioritized, and how these mini requests train us to believe we deserve less.

In this episode of Selfed, Lauren and I explore the importance of sexual health communication, embodiment, and empowerment. As a sex coach, Lauren shares her journey toward self-identity through her sexuality and how she helps clients find empowerment through practices like pole dancing. We also dive into the challenges of dating and the significance of vulnerability in relationships.

Welcome to Season 2 of Selfed! We kick off this season with a fresh perspective on self-help, breaking down buzzwords like "high value man" and "doing the work" while sharing relatable experiences that challenge our identity. Join me and my friend Will as we dive into the complexities of finding ourselves in a world full of conflicting advice.