In Selfed 35, I explore the intersection of masculinity and vulnerability, reflecting on how we can integrate these seemingly opposing forces into our identities. Through this lens, I examine my dual identities as Courtney Brame and Honmychest, highlighting the power of merging masculine and feminine energies to achieve wholeness. This episode was inspired by the reactions to the Roe v. Wade overturn and the contrasting responses from different energies

When our reality dictates our standards, settling often follows. In this episode of Selfed, I reflect on the importance of setting standards that align with who you truly are, rather than letting circumstances define them. I’m grateful for friends who help me stay true to myself, even as I navigate new challenges in Portland, OR. The real strength lies not just in resilience, but in the practice of letting go of heavy, negative emotions.

Money can buy services and interactions, but what about the currency of character? In this episode of Selfed, I explore the concept of wealth in character traits and how they influence our interactions with the world. Reflecting on my move to Portland, OR, I dive into what it means to be rich in character and how that impacts your reality. Let’s assess our character currency together.

In this final episode recorded in St. Louis, I explore the connection between raising standards and eliminating expectations. Emotions run high as I reflect on the passion, excitement, and enthusiasm that come with embracing change. This episode builds on last week’s discussion about potential, showing how these concepts intertwine in our journey of growth.

Partnering for potential can lead to outsourcing your own healing. In this episode, I discuss how relying on someone else to validate your worth can create unsustainable standards and validate a lack within yourself. Explore the pitfalls of tying your identity to another person's potential and the importance of doing the work for yourself.

In this episode of Selfed, we explore the word "crazy" and its use to describe behaviors that aren't considered normal. We contrast this with queer identities, which are also "not normal" but are consistent in their expression of behaviors and beliefs. We delve into how "crazy" is often seen negatively, while queerness represents a consistent and accepted difference.

In this episode of Selfed, we explore the concept of dating as if you’re already in your ideal relationship. This mindset shift not only impacts dating but also transforms how you approach networking, socializing, and other life areas. We also begin to touch on the idea of how "crazy" and "queer" identities are expressions of "not normal" in different ways—setting the stage for next week's deeper dive into this topic.

In this episode of Selfed, we dive into the evolution of religion and its relevance in modern society. Through a thought-provoking conversation with a young lady planning to modernize Christianity, I explore the difference between spirituality and religion. We discuss the balance between upholding tradition and embracing presence, and how integrating the two could lead to a more relatable belief system.

In this episode of Selfed, I reflect on my decision to move to Portland, Oregon, despite the rising cost of living. The real cost we often overlook is the cost of NOT living—ignoring intuition, repressing natural expression, and not pursuing our passions. Join me as I explore the peace that comes with aligning with your true purpose, even when it means making tough choices along the way.

In this episode of Selfed, I dive into my struggles with unconditional acceptance. As someone who often tries to change people and situations out of love, I've realized that this approach leaves me emotionally drained. Through self-reflection, I explore the importance of accepting what is and how this shift can positively impact my relationships and self-connection.

In this episode of Selfed, I explore the potential origins of a "fuckboy" through my own dating experiences. After some connectual frustrations, I took action by joining dating sites, updating my profile, and processing what dating really means when staying true to oneself. We also discuss the concept of wholeness in masculinity and femininity.

In this episode of Selfed, I explore the symbolic meanings of Fight, Flight, Freeze, and the added response of moving Forward. I share my reflections on a symbolic dream, the spiritual significance of possums, and how these elements loop into my reality of dependence and the need to move forward. We dive into the intense feelings around fear, excitement, success, and failure, and how they motivate us to choose our response to triggers.

In Selfed Episode 23, I reflect on the significance of change and self-exploration. Traveling took me out of my daily roles and allowed me to reconnect with my true self—a dreamer living with consistency between beliefs and behaviors. The question "How does that serve you?" triggered a deeper understanding of my need for self-exploration, prompting me to assess where I am and why I'm here.

In Selfed Episode 22, I explore the possibilities that arise when I shift my mindset to make my obstacles and opportunities work for me. After asking myself "What do I want?" in the previous episode, I’ve decided to take my own advice and set my goal to align with everything I desire, rather than settling for limited outcomes. This episode marks a transition as I contemplate bringing guests onto the podcast to expand the self-education perspective offered here.

In Selfed Episode 21, I confront my habit of conforming my needs to external circumstances. A Netflix series, near-death experience, and quality company made me realize how backwards this process is. I explore the power of belief and the impact of aligning actions with personal desires rather than external pressures. This episode also delves into the dynamics of relationships where one person knows who they are, and the other doesn’t—leading to potential conformity, resentment, and unhappiness.

In Selfed Episode 20, I challenge the idea of "meeting people where they are" and argue that it's more important to meet people where YOU are. I explore how adapting to others’ levels can highlight our own insecurities and create inconsistencies in our interactions. This episode is about aligning your energy and intentions with who you are, rather than adjusting to others’ circumstances.

In Selfed Episode 19, I explore the recurring pattern of unhealthy emotional support in my relationships and how it impacts my overall well-being. I share my insights on aligning emotional support with my spirit's needs versus my body's needs, and how disengaging from what doesn’t serve my overall mission helps prevent burnout. This episode emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care.

In Selfed Episode 18, I share a profound moment of awareness that emerged from hearing about multiple suicides within a short time span. I explore how repression of my feelings of impatience has led to a new understanding: impatience can be transformed into initiative. This episode dives into how I’m channeling this realization into taking decisive actions toward creating systemic change in suicide prevention.

In Selfed Episode 17, I dive into a new perspective on success inspired by the Netflix Anime series, Record of Ragnarok. The series highlights the contrast between humanity and the Gods, emphasizing the significance of mortality. I discuss how adopting the intention to fail, much like a character known for his losses, can be a powerful mindset shift in the pursuit of success.

In this episode, I dive into the challenge of prioritizing self-expression amidst constant distractions and urges to "do" rather than "be." Inspired by reflections from my Yoga teacher training, I explore a new practice to balance the extremes of tending to needs versus creating space for stillness.