This episode reflects on the shift from honesty to transparency, especially from the perspective of someone who has had the opportunity to indulge in necessary luxuries of healing during the pandemic. I discuss the realization of my financial worth and the year-long journey to break free from beliefs that no longer serve me.

In this episode, I delve into the importance of self-prioritization, particularly in dating and time management. Through recent dating experiences where my time was disrespected, I realized the value of setting boundaries and recognizing the difference between prioritizing oneself and being selfish.

In this episode of Selfed, I reflect on a profound food analogy that my friend shared with me while we were cooking. As I struggled to cut sweet potatoes, my friend’s simple observation made me realize how much effort we often put into changing others instead of accepting them for who they are.

In this episode of Selfed, I explore the deep connection between the body and stored emotions, focusing on how my life has been shaped by a need to prove that I deserve to be here. Through Yoga, I’ve worked on releasing these deep-seated feelings, particularly in the root chakra, and embracing the fact that simply being here is enough.

In this episode, I dive into the concept of "energy in motion," which I believe is the expanded meaning of emotions. Reflecting on recent breakups, I discuss how crucial support, challenge, and celebration are in my relationships to feel emotionally safe and seen. As a Black man dating outside my race, I also explore the complexities of expressing emotions without fear of misinterpretation.

When things are going well, why do we struggle to embrace the positivity and lean into our securities? In this episode, I explore the challenges of cultivating positive emotions and why self-trust is crucial to leading with intuition. Learn how to create more comfort with positive experiences and shift away from the familiar negativity.

The external impacts the internal and the internal impacts the external

In this episode, I delve into a dream that illustrated my energetic capacity through the symbolism of a dolphin and an octopus. The octopus, with its many tentacles, represents the ability to grasp multiple things, but at the cost of mobility. The dolphin, on the other hand, embodies freedom and fluidity. I explore how these animals reflect my approach to focus and letting go, and discuss how community support expands our capacity to serve and sustain our mission.

In this episode, I explore the lessons learned from both asserting and respecting boundaries. Boundaries, whether we set them or honor them, make us better humans. The main focus is on shifting our mindset from expecting things to go wrong to expecting success. Through personal stories and metaphors, I discuss what it means to truly anticipate success in our lives and the impact that mindset can have.

In this episode, I delve into the complexities of creating and upholding boundaries. After experiencing a redirecting rejection, I realized that boundaries are as challenging to uphold as they are to set. I discuss how malleable boundaries allow situations and people to slip through, leading to unwanted outcomes. The focus here is on the importance of firm boundaries in creating high-quality connections and opportunities that align with who we are.

In this episode, I explore my habitual patterns around sex and uncover the deeper desire that lies beneath: the need for genuine connection. By reflecting on past experiences, I realize that what I often sought through sex was not the physical act itself but a deeper sense of connectedness.

In this episode, I dive into what it truly means to "do the work" of healing. Building on the idea that self-care is about caring for your identities, I explore how discovery and exploration feed into one another, leading to genuine healing through expression.

In this episode, I explore the concept that true self-care is actually about caring for your identity. Through discussions with my therapist, I realized that self-care isn’t just about physical or mental upkeep but about nurturing the invisible aspects of who we are.

In this episode, I dive into the internal struggle of going against my intuition despite clear signs from the universe. I share stories where acting on intuitive impulses led to unexpected positive outcomes and reflect on a reconnection with a past partner that brought unexpected closure.

In the inaugural episode of Selfed, I dive into setting expectations for this journey of self-education. I share my personal identities beyond surface-level associations and articulate who I am internally, setting the stage for the healing process that will be put on display throughout this podcast series.